Steps To End a Relationship

HANIF B MOHAMAD

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Actually, a lot of us wish to be the ones who end a certain relationship rather than the ones being dumped. However, only a few of us have courage to do that because the decision made is final and may change someone’s life. As a matter of fact, a relationship may come to an end due to some factors such as disloyalty and lack of understanding between the partners. For those who had a long term relationship, the end of their relationship will affect both individuals. The worst thing is, girls, especially, tend to commit suicide mainly because the relationship ended in improper ways. To avoid this kind of thing happening, proper steps should be taken when we intend to end a relationship.The respectable steps are including face to face conversation; get straight to the point, and stay away from the ‘dumped’ partner.

If we want to end a relationship, we must have to see our partner, face to face, and then start the conversation. This is important step that should not be ignored. This is because face to face conversation is more effective rather than phone calling or text messaging. When talking face to face, our partner can understand the situation better by looking at our face and only by this way he or she will be ready to accept the situation. If this step is not taken, then the relationship will end up with conflict or fight.This is because breaking up a relationship from distant; through the phone for example, is an inappropriate way as it can rise to misunderstanding which can raise the anger of our partner. Not only that, our partner may take revenge for what we had done. That is why face to face conversation is very important in order to end the relationship peacefully.

The next step that should bear in our mind is to get straight to the point when speaking. This can be done by telling the main purpose of the date, which is to end the relationship. Then, we must tell our partner the truth and strong reasons why our relationship needs to be ended. So, by this way the purpose of the date can be done successfully. In this situation, we should avoid talking the unrelated matter because it is just a waste of time. We should also avoid recalling the sweet memories between us and our partner in the past because they will add to the grief of our partner. This is because sweet memories are difficult to be forgotten. There is no point to recall the sweet memories while ending a relationship. In addition, we must control our emotion and voice when communicate with our partner with hope that he or she too will remain as calm as we are.Strictly said that getting straight to the point is also important in ending a relationship.

After the relationship had ended, the last thing that we should do is to stay away from our partner. This is because the end of the relationship is just externally seen, but in the heart no one knows. There must be a bit sense of love remains in the heart of us and our partner. So, more time is needed to erase all sweet memories in mind between us and the particular partner. For example, if the partner lives in Kuala Lumpur, the best way is to move out from Kuala Lumpur. By staying away from him or her, the memories become to fade in a period of time. So, the disappointment and the sorrow after the break can be reduced a little.Besides, this step gives a chance to our partner to forget the past relationship and try to make a new one. Furthermore, the important of this step is that, if we have another lover, the ex-lover will not knowing about that or else he or she will be jealous. That is why after a certain relationship is ended, we must stay away from the ‘dumped’ partner to avoid the recalling of the past memories.

As a conclusion, ending a relationship must be done in an appropriate manner starting with a face to face conversation, followed by the point of conversation and at last, staying away from the partner. The fact is, having to be one to start this break up thing is not as easy as it seems. The most important thing to end up this situation peacefully is to plan well and to take the steps mentioned above carefully.